Distancing by L. David Marquet & Michael Gillespie [Paperback]

Distancing by David Marquet and Michael Gillespie is a science-based psychology and self-help book that teaches readers how to make clearer, more objective decisions by gaining psychological distance from their immediate thoughts and emotions.

The authors argue that we ourselves can become the biggest obstacle to good decision-making. Our emotions, biases, attachment to previous choices, and limited perspective can cause us to defend what we have already done rather than objectively consider better alternatives.

The book introduces psychological distancing as a way to become your own coach through three approaches:

• Self-distancing — viewing yourself as an outside observer.
• Spatial distancing — mentally stepping back to see the bigger picture.
• Temporal distancing — considering decisions from the perspective of your future self.

Drawing on psychological research, real-world examples, and practical exercises, the book shows how these techniques can help readers overcome unhelpful patterns and develop better judgment, greater perspective, and smarter decision-making.